In our short story, "The Lady With the Dog," Gurov is leading two different lives. In class we discussed some reasons why that Gurov stayed with both his wife and Anna. We discussed the possibility of Gurov wanting some excitement in his life. We talked about him maybe wanting to prove to his wife that he was still in charge and still the man of the house. Also, we talked about the idea of Gurov staying because he had children. Gurov knew it wasn't right for children to have to grow up without a parent. This possibility spoke volumes to me because of my own personal experience.
In my case, one of the reasons my mom stayed is because of my little brother and I. Our story is a tiny bit different than Gurov's because we had to leave.
My dad abused a lot of things (such as drugs and alcohol). My brother and I were still in elementary school and middle school throughout this time. My mom knew my brother and I needed a dad. So we stayed in the situation. There were a few other reasons my mom stayed (one was knowing that the bible says divorce is not a good thing, but I know God does not intend for people to stay in a really bad and hurtful situation), but an important reason was my mom wanted her kids to grow up having a dad. Though he was not a good one, my mom kept hoping he would change.
After much praying and a couple years down the road my mom got us out of that situation. My mom and dad were divorced.
Today it is just my mom, my brother, and I. God truly has blessed our lives and He is always been good to us. Even if we had some pretty rough situations, God always kept us safe.
In Gurov's day divorce was frowned upon and it still is today in some cases. Gurov might have stayed for the children just like my mom did. The important thing is she made a decision. Gurov did not make a decision and probably didn't until it was too late. Even still today people have many reasons why they stay together but I would definitely say that having children is a big factor. I would encourage Gurov to stay with his children from my perspective. I would encourage anyone to try to make things work out and not make divorce an option, if you can help it.
I found "The Lady With the Dog" true to life and I wanted to share my thought with you guys :)
My parents divorced when I was seven. Now that I look back I wished they would have stayed together even if it was just for me and my sister. Having divorced parents come with a lot of hardships. The parents may be relieved to be out of a relationship, but they don't realize the negative effects on the children. We can thank Moses for the bill of divorcement but I wished it was never made. I do not want to make the same decision my parents made to get a divorce. I want to take my wedding vows seriously.
ReplyDeleteDivorce is a hard thing to go through. My father is working on his 5th marriage. I wasn't happy my parents got divorced but I had to accept the fact that they weren't happy together. When I was younger in elementary school they told me they were getting a divorced and I was completely torn apart so they waited till I entered middle school to get a divorce. People jump into marriages to quickly and most marriages loss their spark. I agree, I want to take my marriage vows very seriously because I only want walk down the aisle once. My grandparents inspire me with their relationship because they have been together over 50 years and still truly love each other. People have told me that marriage isn’t like that anymore. I wonder why? I still don’t think someone should be unhappy in a relationship even if they do have children. I know that might not be the best thing for the children but one also has to consider the situation and the fact if the relationship continues is it going to get worse.
ReplyDeleteLife was really rough. I see where you are coming from as a teenager I lost my dad and that was a life changer for me. I had to man up because I was the only guy living with my mom, and so I learned how budget my moms handicap income and get a job to help support my mom.
ReplyDeleteNow I'm living thousands of miles away from my mom trying to get a degree and then go back. I thought it might be good for me to leave and grow up being more independent before I return home. It isn't a tradition but I think it will help me in the future. My dad was a good person so I plan to follow in his foot step.
My parents were so close to getting a divorce a few years back. Then, I knew so little about life and I was so scared of choosing to live with my dad or my mom. It's hard to decide because we love them both. This life is just full of trials and pain and people we have to learn how to love. At least you're here now and this is something you have grown from! : ) Thank God that you're okay!
ReplyDeleteSometimes life gets rough, but you just have to stay positive. My parents used to fight all the time and came really close to splitting up, which was a huge reality check for me. Life is a bumpy road, but just remember to keep your head up!
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